To the mother of my future child

To the mother of my future child,

Mother’s Day is here. For many, this means another year has passed and they are celebrating the family they have started. For us, it’s another year of tests and procedures. As much as it is ever is, I know that for you it is another year of pokes and prods; needles and ultrasounds.


For me, it’s another year of watching the person I love the most go through the thing they fear the most for a baby we don’t even know yet. In short, it’s been quite a year. It’s been a year of you facing your phobia several times a week. A year of watching you stare down that cold gripping fear, and subdue it.

It makes me think – if I had to cling to the side of a skyscraper several times a week for us to have a baby… well, I’d like to think that I would be brave enough to do that. I’d like to think that, but I can’t guarantee it.

What I can guarantee is that our child is going to be incredibly lucky because they will be born to the bravest mom in the world. The kind of mom who does not just talk about going through hell for her kid, but the kind of mom who has gone through hell for her kid. The kind of mom who is willing to push through her greatest fear for the opportunity at her greatest hope.

So thank you. Thank you for doing everything in your power to make our dream possible. Thank you for facing your fears several times a week to give us the opportunity at a family. Thank you for being the kind of woman that I look forward to celebrating on the next Mother’s Day.



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