A “good” time to start a fertility blog

I’ve come to realize that there is never a “good time” to begin a blog about fertility. I would occasionally stumble upon a fertility blog in the past 5-years that we have struggled to become parents, and have considered starting my own from time to time, but have always stopped myself for the same reason I have stopped myself from doing a great number of other things in the past half decade–because I keep thinking I’ll get pregnant before I have a chance to fully enjoy “the thing” or I’ll be locked in to a “thing” that I can no longer do on account of my fictitious future pregnancy.

As for the blog – I thought it would be silly to create one when we started our first IUI round because, of course, I’d get pregnant on the first try, and then I’d be stuck with this awkward, irrelevant fertility blog. (Ahh.. what an aspirational problem!)

This concern has prevented me from doing other things, too. For example, I have really wanted to get back into Krav Maga. However, Krav gyms usually require a year-long contract, so I then found myself asking various gyms whether pregnancy was a valid reason to break a contract without penalty. Then I ended up feeling frustrated that I would sign up and have to convince these people to release me from the contract, and what’s the point anyway since I’ll be pregnant soon.

This concern has also prevented me from buying a motorcycle. But my loved ones think that might not be such a bad thing.

That’s one of the crappy hidden costs of prolonged infertility – in addition to all of your hopes and dreams about parenthood, it steals a bunch of other things, too. But I’m beginning to realize that this collateral cost is a hell of my own making, so I’m working on it.

I thought now was as “good” a time as any to fire up this puppy for two reasons:

  1. This week is National Infertility Awareness Week (I can’t tell you how delighted I was to learn that our crappy purgatory has its own dedicated week.), and
  2. As of this morning, we started our FIFTH round of IUI at our fertility clinic.

Because our insurance provider requires SIX FAILED IUIs before they will cover ANY part of IVF, and because it is extremely unlikely that rounds 5 or 6 will do anything that rounds 1-4 couldn’t… I have come to realize that we still have quite a long haul ahead.

All of that said, we are doing our best to approach this challenge with grace and humor, so my hope is that this blog, while about a serious topic, will also be funny and perhaps provide some levity for my fellow hopeful future parents.  So join us as we try to get a baby in my belly, as well as some (hopefully) awesome food that I plan to also post!

 

NIAW 2018

4 thoughts on “A “good” time to start a fertility blog

  1. Katie says:

    Oh dear friend, I’m so glad you’re jumping into this blog. Living life fully in the “in between” is a tricky thing. And at times a torturous thing, self admittedly by us – as if we’re not already suffering enough! There’s been many a thing I myself have pressed pause on because of the “what if”. Oy it’s hard. And coming to the half decade mark just makes it seem more raw seeing only slight progressions. I hear you girl. I love you and I will certinaly continue to lift you up in my prayers. I’ve often times wondered what my perspective will be looking back at this “in between” time of my own. I suppose I’d like to say I lived and loved well during it. Even though it also included a daily numb pain.

    Here’s to loving in the present moment well –

    K

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    • Erika C says:

      Oh K- I’m sorry it’s taken me a few days to reply to your characteristically beautiful and transparent and vulnerable comment. I’ve been thinking of you so much since reading it. Let’s have a phone date? Soon? Really soon?
      And in the meantime- I agree wholeheartedly- here’s to loving in the present moment well.
      I miss you, sweet friend. I look forward to catching up soon. ❤️

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